Amy Dickinson: Time to be the grown-up with mother-in-law
Dear Amy: I'm a 23-year-old married college student which recently gave birth to a beautiful baby boy. My husband and I are already married for three decades. My marriage is great, but my issue is my mother-in-law. We've usually had a rocky relationship, but since giving birth to be able to my son it has sunk to a new low,
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Your woman bad-mouths me to my partner and other people. She snoops in your belongings, thinks my husband should value the girl opinion/feelings more than mine, and merely doesn't understand limitations. She calls my husband childish nicknames even though she has asked her consistently to stop and snacks both of us like youngsters. Now that we have our son, she is constantly on the ignore our limitations.
I'm not sure what to do any more since I don't want my own son around this sort of toxic behavior, and her ignoring our wishes just makes me avoid the woman's as much as I can. I am just so angry as well as resentful that I'm ready to cut off all conversation with her, which means reducing her off from my personal son as well. My better half understands my emotions and is frustrated together with her. Please let me know what I should do. -- Completely Exhausted
Dear Drained: Avoid your son being a tool with which for you to punish your mother-in-law. Commence this process by building an extremely short "fence" between you.
You and your husband ought to state -- calmly as well as rationally and out of your children's presence -- your reasonable expectations and the implications for not meeting all of them.
You two should figure out (and even rehearse) this specific conversation together prior to speaking with her. They should start by expressing, "Mom, I'm disappointed within how you've been performing. You are simply going to need to start treating us much like the adults we are. When we tell you something, we all expect you to hear us all and respect each of our wishes. Do you know that," Give her tangible examples of what you would like the woman's to do differently.
Your mother-in-law might try to psychologically manipulate both of you. You simply cannot let her. In the event you two are regularly firm, you should be capable of "retrain" her. If not, you'll have to build a higher fencing.
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While i enter a restaurant, I'd rather not see any men (no matter what their age) at a table with a baseball cover on. It upsets me to pay for a nice dinner when I discover attire that goes at a fast food eating place.
Needless to say, in my home I must keep the loved ones peace, and so I cannot say anything. In restaurants, I clearly can't speak upwards,
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Cranky Dad
Expensive Cranky: Your home is your castle and of course you can -- and should -- ask males to please remove their hats.
If they never comply, you have my own permission to judge these people harshly.
Send queries via e-mail to askamy@tribune.net or by mail to Ask Amy, Chicago Tribune, TT500, 435 D. Michigan Ave., Chicago, Celui-ci 60611.
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